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Envy Makes You Unfriendly ๐Ÿ˜

Hi There! It’s (finally) the weekend! Normally, I would have been ecstatic…but it doesn’t help that I need to study for the 8 exams I have next week. *sigh* At least my english test was pretty good yesterday. Accounting not so much – our teacher isn’t exactly the brightest person in the world when it comes to accounting & he brought up questions of topics we still haven’t even covered. Il est stupide! >facepalm<

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Anyway, that was just my news update & I serously hope your weekend is going to be much more enjoyable than mine! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Have you ever been jealous before? *slowly raises hand* Exactly – everyone has been down that road before. You’ve been jealous & I’ve been jealous (even though I try hard not to)

Image result for raises hand gifWhat is jealousy? Well, it’s counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. It’s something we usually can’t help. We have to envy that person with the better grades & a scholarship to the best uni, or a better car, or a better job, or a better house, or a better body, or a better partner. Maybe that girl who’s the queen of popularity and seems to have it all, or that guy with a 6-pack as well as muscled arms & legs who seems to have all girls flirting & swooning over him. The list is never-ending…

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Let me get this straight to you (and my mind) – Jealousy is a waste of time. Why recklessly spend a significant amount of time being unhappy & dwelling on the things you don’t have?ย  Jealousy is a pro when it comes to stealing your inner joy & blocking your chances in becoming happy, grateful or simply successful.

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We keep comparing what they have with what we don’t have. The problem is though that wanting what you don’t have stops you from living a peaceful & happy life. A good quote to illustrate this is:ย  “Comparision Is The Theif Of Joy.”

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Envy doesn’t change anything & it doesn’t solve anything. (Can you hear that, brain-of-mine?) It just makes matters way worse.You end up feeling angry and inadequate. You end up saying “Life isn’t fair”, which FYI is a true statement – it’s not. Jealousy amps up the volume on anything & everything.

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Feeling jealous eats up your individuality. Everyone is unique. This is important. This needs to be celebrated & cherished. Surely, there will always be someone ahead of you in any or every aspect of your life… but no one else in this world is like YOU. I believe that with determination, confidence & hard work, you’re perfectly capable of making your dreams & goals come true as well as (almost) living the life you desire.

“When life throws at you lemons…make a lemonade!” ๐Ÿ™‚

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Remember: Nothing is permanent & everything is temporary. Day by day, things change. constantly changing. That’s why there is no benefit or use from spending a great deal of time & energy fretting over others or wishing for something different. . That time can be spent in making a plan, improving yourself, reflecting on your past, identifying your mistakes or just working hard.

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The green monster of jealousy forces us to wish we had more, and clouds our eyes from counting our blessings. Appreciate what you have first, and the best will happen!

“Maybe you donโ€™t have the career success or relationship satisfaction of those around you, but by working through anything that is less than ideal, you are achieving something great: growth. And growth will make room for the changes youโ€™ve been waiting for”.

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One more thing. Being resentful ruins your self-esteem & self-confidence. It encourages & convinces you that “you’ll never be able to do it” & that “you should give up” & that “you’ll never be like that” – even though it’s not true. Don’t leave jealousy control your mind & get the best of you.

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Okay there? Cool. So, you’ve probably had enough of listening to how envy is awful, stupid, an ultimate life-ruiner & happiness-eater. Great. That was the first step – to get you admit that jealousy is terrible & all the other negative words you can possibly think of.

Don’t worry – I can hear you “But what can I do to stop myself from getting jealous?”

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STEP 2 – THE TIPS

1. Focus on the good in your life – don’t take your belssings for granted. You have hvae many things to appreciate. There might be people better than you… but there are also others who are living a life much worse than yours.

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2. Remember: Nobody has it all.ย  Each person you meet or know has problems & weaknesses of their own. This is what makes us human. Nobody is living a perfect life, even if it seems so. “Don’t judge a book by its cover”

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3. Spend time with other grateful & trustworthy people.ย  Try spending time with people who are satisfied & happy witht heir life. These feelings of appreciation are contagious & will rub off onto you – their spirit will eventually become yours.

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4. Celebrate the success of others! When someone succeeds or gets something they desire – be happy for them. Stop thinking that life is a competition. Think win-win.ย  They can have what they want, and you can too. There is plenty for everyone!

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5. Be generous & kind. Try to make this an essential habit fo your life. You’ll feel emotional warmth & happiness when you help others. Our communities flourish, when we care for each other. Resist any urge to be unkind. Your kindness will come back to you in one way or another.

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6. Please do all of the above & thankyou for reading with us. Okay, I feel like an ATM now. Anyway, this is probably the most important & meaningful step & tip! Just do it – Thanks Nike!
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C’est finit! Most probably, you’ll never just completely stop being jealous, but you can definitely learn to minimise it in your life, because frankly…we don’t need it messing up with our brains. Jealousy is a disease – Get Well Soon.ย  Shoo it away as if it’s an annoying fly trying to get to your food! ๐Ÿ˜‚
I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this post & that you’ve gained some helpful knowledge, inside & tips as much as I’ve enjoyed writing it! ๐Ÿ˜Š
Don’t forget to comment what you think of this post & any other tips or thoughts you wish to share! ๐Ÿ™‚
I’ll leave you to it for now- I’m going tostudy the theories of motivation in businesses (Isn’t money usually enough?). Anyway…Have A Great Weekend! โค๏ธ
Au Revoir! (Why do I keep speaking french? My french test isn’t even next week…)
Smiling Dreamer xoxo

 

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84 thoughts on “Envy Makes You Unfriendly ๐Ÿ˜

  1. Full marks for the exceptional quotes and immense respect for the down to earth views! Jealousy is a disease and you are the doctor who has a medicine for it. Good luck for the exams. Hope the next post will be about how to write exams well!๐Ÿ˜Š

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    1. Thankyou so much for your kind words – they mean so much to me! โค๏ธ Thanks for the good luck wishes! ๐Ÿ˜Š Hmm, that would actually make a nice post – I’ll do it but maybe not the next post yet. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. Yeah, I feel a lot of times jealous on my friend who is ALWAYS competing with me and it makes me very angry. Your tips help me a lot.
    Anyway, I’ve nominated you for Mystery Blogger Award!!!!!!!:)
    The award is non compulsory. If you choose to accept it, just follow the rules and have fun!

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    1. Hahaha – it’s my pleasure! I’m glad you found my tips useful! ๐Ÿ™‚ Thankyou so much for nominating me! Of course I accept it! I’ll probably do the post in a few days since I’m super-busy with studying! Thanks Again! โค๏ธ

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    1. Thankyou so much for your kind words! I’m delighted that you love my blog – this makes me so happy! ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for the motivation! ๐Ÿ˜„ I follow you too & your blog is really great! Keep going on! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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      1. Awww – that’s so sweet of you! Thankyou so much! It’s such a happy, rewarding & energetic feeling when you or any other blogger tells me that they think my blog is amazing! Words simply can’t express how I feel! ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. This was an amazing post! You hit the nail on the head with everything! Loved it! As usual, you had me smiling through the whole thing. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜€ which I needed since I had my own problems with school today. I’ll talk about it in my next blog. 8 EXAMS?!! ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ฎ WOW! Well, good luck ! ๐Ÿ‘

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    1. Thankyou so much!โค๏ธโค๏ธ I’m really proud that you love it! Very glad that I made you smile! Oh I’m very sad to hear that – I hope that whatever problems you have get sorted soon! I’m sure everything will be ok! Can’t wait for your next post! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Yeah 8 – I know right? They’re just so much & they prove to be never ending! Thanks for the good luck wishes! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  4. I love this..I totally agree that jealousy is one of the ugliest qualities around. It doesn’t add anything, it only creates bitterness in people…but it seems to be everywhere! Far more people are envious of others rather than pleased for them!
    I genuinely think you were made to write this post – because you’re always so positive & supportive ๐Ÿ˜Š I’m glad you’ve taken the time to share your views. All in all, a really great post ๐Ÿ˜Šโคxxxx

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  5. There’s so much in the title alone. Envy definitely can make one less friendly. I think one reason is because those envious tend to measure their shortcomings by who or what they envy. Therefore, it is hard to look in the mirror to face shortcomings. Thanks for sharing this post and providing insight on a real occurrence.

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  6. I did really enjoy reading this, and I did gain some very helpful knowledge. When it comes to jealousy and envy, it’s a hard thing to deal with. Most of the time I pretend it’s not there, because I feel like it makes me a bad person, but I guess it’s a natural human emotion. Thank you for the tips ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

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    1. Thankyou so much for your sweet & kind words! ๐Ÿ˜Š I’m delighted & pleased that you’ve gained knowledge & like the advice! ๐Ÿ™‚ I totally agree with you – it can be difficult to deal with & sometimes you can’t help it. Thanks Again for your lovely comment – it means a lot to me! โค๏ธโค๏ธ

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  7. 0_0 This post is literally awesome – not joking or exertraggrating here!
    It is speaking the truth and happy to come across this post!
    This is a great word of wisdom “Remember: Nothing is permanent & everything is temporary. Day by day, things change. constantly changing.” – SO TRUE! I even use that phrase “Nothing is impermanent!”
    Such a inspirational post, thank you so much! โค
    Glad to come across your blog!
    xxx
    Doni

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    1. Thankyou so much for your generosity & wonderful comment! ๐Ÿ˜Š I’m really delighted that you like my advice & tips and that you think it’s awesome! ๐Ÿ™‚ I agree – It’s really important for everyone to know that & not be nostalgic for some kind of past era! ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s My Pleasure! ๐Ÿ‘Œ Thanks Again & it makes me overjoyed that you like my blog! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

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      1. No worries, smilingdreamer! Such a positive post! ๐Ÿ˜€ Glad I came across you! โค I hope you like my blog too although it isn't that awesome compared to yours! x Doni

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