Hi There! It’s (finally) the weekend! Normally, I would have been ecstatic…but it doesn’t help that I need to study for the 8 exams I have next week. *sigh* At least my english test was pretty good yesterday. Accounting not so much – our teacher isn’t exactly the brightest person in the world when it comes to accounting & he brought up questions of topics we still haven’t even covered. Il est stupide! >facepalm<
Have you ever been jealous before? *slowly raises hand* Exactly – everyone has been down that road before. You’ve been jealous & I’ve been jealous (even though I try hard not to)
What is jealousy? Well, it’s counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. It’s something we usually can’t help. We have to envy that person with the better grades & a scholarship to the best uni, or a better car, or a better job, or a better house, or a better body, or a better partner. Maybe that girl who’s the queen of popularity and seems to have it all, or that guy with a 6-pack as well as muscled arms & legs who seems to have all girls flirting & swooning over him. The list is never-ending…
Let me get this straight to you (and my mind) – Jealousy is a waste of time. Why recklessly spend a significant amount of time being unhappy & dwelling on the things you don’t have? Jealousy is a pro when it comes to stealing your inner joy & blocking your chances in becoming happy, grateful or simply successful.
We keep comparing what they have with what we don’t have. The problem is though that wanting what you don’t have stops you from living a peaceful & happy life. A good quote to illustrate this is: “Comparision Is The Theif Of Joy.”
Envy doesn’t change anything & it doesn’t solve anything. (Can you hear that, brain-of-mine?) It just makes matters way worse.You end up feeling angry and inadequate. You end up saying “Life isn’t fair”, which FYI is a true statement – it’s not. Jealousy amps up the volume on anything & everything.
Feeling jealous eats up your individuality. Everyone is unique. This is important. This needs to be celebrated & cherished. Surely, there will always be someone ahead of you in any or every aspect of your life… but no one else in this world is like YOU. I believe that with determination, confidence & hard work, you’re perfectly capable of making your dreams & goals come true as well as (almost) living the life you desire.
“When life throws at you lemons…make a lemonade!” 🙂
Remember: Nothing is permanent & everything is temporary. Day by day, things change. constantly changing. That’s why there is no benefit or use from spending a great deal of time & energy fretting over others or wishing for something different. . That time can be spent in making a plan, improving yourself, reflecting on your past, identifying your mistakes or just working hard.
The green monster of jealousy forces us to wish we had more, and clouds our eyes from counting our blessings. Appreciate what you have first, and the best will happen!
“Maybe you don’t have the career success or relationship satisfaction of those around you, but by working through anything that is less than ideal, you are achieving something great: growth. And growth will make room for the changes you’ve been waiting for”.
One more thing. Being resentful ruins your self-esteem & self-confidence. It encourages & convinces you that “you’ll never be able to do it” & that “you should give up” & that “you’ll never be like that” – even though it’s not true. Don’t leave jealousy control your mind & get the best of you.
Okay there? Cool. So, you’ve probably had enough of listening to how envy is awful, stupid, an ultimate life-ruiner & happiness-eater. Great. That was the first step – to get you admit that jealousy is terrible & all the other negative words you can possibly think of.
Don’t worry – I can hear you “But what can I do to stop myself from getting jealous?”
STEP 2 – THE TIPS
1. Focus on the good in your life – don’t take your belssings for granted. You have hvae many things to appreciate. There might be people better than you… but there are also others who are living a life much worse than yours.
2. Remember: Nobody has it all. Each person you meet or know has problems & weaknesses of their own. This is what makes us human. Nobody is living a perfect life, even if it seems so. “Don’t judge a book by its cover”
3. Spend time with other grateful & trustworthy people. Try spending time with people who are satisfied & happy witht heir life. These feelings of appreciation are contagious & will rub off onto you – their spirit will eventually become yours.
4. Celebrate the success of others! When someone succeeds or gets something they desire – be happy for them. Stop thinking that life is a competition. Think win-win. They can have what they want, and you can too. There is plenty for everyone!
5. Be generous & kind. Try to make this an essential habit fo your life. You’ll feel emotional warmth & happiness when you help others. Our communities flourish, when we care for each other. Resist any urge to be unkind. Your kindness will come back to you in one way or another.