*WARNING! THIS WILL BE A SLIGHTLY LONG POST!*
Stress. You get stressed by just hearing that word, don’t you? It can be such a controversial topic, which is why a lot of misconceptions on stress float around. You can never steer clear of stress. Once in a blue moon when you see someone who is 100% free of stress. Some people, like celebrities seem as if they’re extremely relaxed and own a cool mind. But lets just say that’s not true. Because it isn’t.
“Never judge a book by its cover.” Social media creates incorrect images & perceptions, since most people are pretending that life is okay. For example: Amy posts on Facebook or Twitter about how much she loves her job and that it’s a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity – when in reality she’s fed up & wants to quit, but there are no open vacancies in her specialty. Then her friend, Emma sees the post & is filled up with envy & frustration, because of the crafted image she’s just read. Part of our stress is actually because of social media. It can ruin our lives sometimes or make us more depressed – but lets keep that to another post for now.
So, back to stress. You can’t avoid it, but you can (hopefully) control it. It is important that you learn to handle stress in daily life. It will allow you to maintain a better frame of mind, and enhance your immunity & overall health. Do I sound a bit formal here? Sorry, I didn’t mean to, but sometimes you might find me using sophisticated words. Anyway, you deserve to enjoy life.
A common way to reduce stress can be by focusing your mind to positive thinking everyday. I know, it can be hard. It’s easier said than done. But it plays a significant role in lessening stress levels. Take it as a challenge. You need to learn to constantly look at the bright side of ALL situations. There is no such thing as “there is no bright side”. It’s how you deal & react to what life throws at you that determines your anxiety status. Try using positive language like “What’s the worst that can happen?” or “Will this matter to me in the upcoming months/years?”. You can write down your worries on a piece of paper, or create a “Worry Journal” and analyse how some issues affect your life. You’ll probably feel more light & free after doing so.
Another thing, is to focus on what is actually in your hands – things in YOUR circle of control. Some things in life occur out of our control – we can’t do anything about it – but we still worry about it. Take responsibility of your life & be the captain of your OWN ship.
Like Author Sean Covey had said in one of his books, “You can be proactive or reactive. Reactive people are like a can of fizzy drink. If life shakes them up a bit, the pressure builds and they suddenly explode. But reactive people are like water. Shake them up all you want, take off the lid, and nothing. They are calm, cool, and in control.”
Ideally, you should be aiming to be the pilot, of course. How? I hear you asking. Well, it’s simple. Think before you act. Realise that you can’t control everything that happens to you… but you can control what you DO about it. You need to carry the remote control to your life. You can’t say X is making me miserable or Y is ruining my life.
My point is: you need to learn to accept that there are many things in the world which are beyond your control, so don’t worry about such things.
To sum up, you need to be proactive & optimistic. Every cloud has a silver lining. It may seem that being positive won’t solve your problems – but you’re wrong. It actually helps. If you find at least one positive thing in your day that will lighten your mood – then I call it progress.
Here is a website, which highlights some common situations in life and the positive outcome out of it: https://www.realbuzz.com/articles/10-ways-to-look-on-the-bright-side-of-life/
On the other hand, (I love that opening!) there’s a variety of more PRACTICAL ways to manage stress. For instance, listening to your favourite music everyday can make wonders to your life. Whether you’re a teenager or adult, music has a direct & unique connection to our emotions and has a tremendous relaxing effect on us. It can lower your blood pressure, your heart rate, and more importantly stress. It absorbs your attention, & prevents your mind form wandering. It’s a BRILLIANT distraction from the problems of life, and acts as meditation too. I love to listen to my favourite songs every morning – it just puts me in the mood!
Do more of what YOU love. If you like photography, then do more of that. If you like walking around nature, then go visit a park or have a walk around your garden. If you like dancing, then join a dance class in your nearest gym or sports centre. The list goes on.
This doesn’t just help you steer away from stress, but it makes you happy. Bingo! You’re killing 2 birds with 1 stone! You need to do what you love… NOT love what you do. Don’t let people bring you down or tell you ‘that’s impossible!’. If there’s something you love, but seems too far-fetched…don’t worry & don’t give up. YOU can make it work. Have hope & faith in yourself.
Chin Up Honey – It’ll Work Out In The End! You were born with this special unique gift which no one else has. So make it happen & be patient. It’s really rare to perfect something from the first time. However one time after another – things will end up going great.
Pressure can either break you or make you & you, yes you, are the one who chooses what id does to you.
Meditate, do yoga, work out at home or in your gym, read a magazine or a book, visit a friend or relative, re-watch your favourite movie or series, lie on your bed doing absolutely nothing, practice taking deep breaths, have a night out, do some partying. Just treat yourself! Do whatever works for you as long as it doesn’t harm you or anyone. Don’t stress about stress. Just like Idina Menzel’s words in “Frozen”: Let it go. I assure you that everything will fall into place (eventually), once you stop dwelling on it.
Put on that smile of yours & show yourself and the world that you can. 🙂 What do you do to control your stress? Be sure to let me know!
Smiling Dreamer xoxo