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Stress ๐Ÿ˜’

Stress. You get stressed by just hearing that word, don’t you? It can be such a controversial topic, which is why a lot of misconceptions on stress float around. You can never steer clear of stress. Once in a blue moon when you see someone who is 100% free of stress. Some people, like celebrities seem as if they’re extremely relaxed and own a cool mind. But lets just say that’s not true. Because it isn’t.

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โ€œNever judge a book by its cover.โ€ Social media creates incorrect images & perceptions, since most people are pretending that life is okay. For example: Amy posts on Facebook or Twitter about how much she loves her job and that it’s a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity – when in reality she’s fed up & wants to quit, but there are no open vacancies in her specialty. Then her friend, Emma sees the post & is filled up with envy & frustration, because of the crafted image she’s just read. Part of our stress is actually because of social media. It can ruin our lives sometimes or make us more depressed – but lets keep that to another post for now.

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So, back to stress. You can’t avoid it, but you can (hopefully) control it. It is important that you learn to handle stress in daily life. It will allow you to maintain a better frame of mind, and enhance your immunity & overall health. Do I sound a bit formal here? Sorry, I didn’t mean to, but sometimes you might find me using sophisticated words. Anyway, you deserve to enjoy life.

Image result for you should enjoy lifeA common way to reduce stress can be by focusing your mind to positive thinking everyday. I know, it can be hard. It’s easier said than done. But it plays a significant role in lessening stress levels. Take it as a challenge. You need to learn to constantly look at the bright side of ALL situations. There is no such thing as “there is no bright side”. It’s how you deal & react to what life throws at you that determines your anxiety status. Try using positive language like “What’s the worst that can happen?” or “Will this matter to me in the upcoming months/years?โ€. You can write down your worries on a piece of paper, or create a “Worry Journal” and analyse how some issues affect your life. You’ll probably feel more light & free after doing so.

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Another thing, is to focus on what is actually in your hands – things in YOUR circle of control. Some things in life occur out of our control – we can’t do anything about it – but we still worry about it. Take responsibility of your life & be the captain of your OWN ship.

Like Author Sean Covey had said in one of his books, “You can be proactive or reactive. Reactive people are like a can of fizzy drink. If life shakes them up a bit, the pressure builds and they suddenly explode. But reactive people are like water. Shake them up all you want, take off the lid, and nothing. They are calm, cool, and in control.”

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Ideally, you should be aiming to be the pilot, of course. How? I hear you asking. Well, it’s simple. Think before you act. Realise that you can’t control everything that happens to youโ€ฆ but you can control what you DO about it. You need to carry the remote control to your life.ย  You can’t say X is making me miserable or Y is ruining my life.

My point is: you need to learn to accept that there are many things in the world which are beyond your control, so donโ€™t worry about such things.
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To sum up, you need to be proactive & optimistic. Every cloud has a silver lining. It may seem that being positive won’t solve your problems – but youโ€™re wrong. It actually helps. If you find at least one positive thing in your day that will lighten your mood – then I call it progress.

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Here is a website, which highlights some common situations in life and the positive outcome out of it: https://www.realbuzz.com/articles/10-ways-to-look-on-the-bright-side-of-life/

On the other hand, (I love that opening!) there’s a variety of more PRACTICAL ways to manage stress. For instance, listening to your favourite music everyday can make wonders to your life. Whether you’re a teenager or adult, music has a direct & unique connection to our emotions and has a tremendous relaxing effect on us. It can lower your blood pressure, your heart rate, and more importantly stress. It absorbs your attention, & prevents your mind form wandering. It’s a BRILLIANT distraction from the problems of life, and acts as meditation too. I love to listen to my favourite songs every morning – it just puts me in the mood!

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Do more of what YOU love. If you like photography, then do more of that. If you like walking around nature, then go visit a park or have a walk around your garden. If you like dancing, then join a dance class in your nearest gym or sports centre. The list goes on.

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This doesn’t just help you steer away from stress, but it makes you happy. Bingo! You’re killing 2 birds with 1 stone! You need to do what you loveโ€ฆ NOT love what you do. Don’t let people bring you down or tell you ‘that’s impossible!’. If there’s something you love, but seems too far-fetched…don’t worry & don’t give up. YOU can make it work. Have hope & faith in yourself.

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Chin Up Honey – Itโ€™ll Work Out In The End! You were born with this special unique gift which no one else has. So make it happen & be patient. It’s really rare to perfect something from the first time. However one time after another – things will end up going great.

Pressure can either break you or make you & you, yes you, are the one who chooses what id does to you.

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Meditate, do yoga, work out at home or in your gym, read a magazine or a book, visit a friend or relative, re-watch your favourite movie or series, lie on your bed doing absolutely nothing, practice taking deep breaths, have a night out, do some partying. Just treat yourself! Do whatever works for you as long as it doesn’t harm you or anyone. Don’t stress about stress. Just like Idina Menzel’s words in “Frozen”: Let it go. I assure you that everything will fall into place (eventually), once you stop dwelling on it.

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Put on that smile of yours & show yourself and the world that you can. ๐Ÿ™‚ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย ย  What do you do to control your stress? Be sure to let me know!

Smiling Dreamer xoxo

32 thoughts on “Stress ๐Ÿ˜’

  1. Luckily, Iยดm less stressed every day. But yes, Iยดve tried all your examples and they work ๐Ÿ™‚ Of course, one day some meditation works better than anything, and another day talking to a friend is the solution.
    Great post!
    Big hug ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. That’s great to hear! Yay – I’m giving my readers guaranteed examples! ๐Ÿ™‚ Meditation is the best – I love it, it’s just so relaxing! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thankyou for your kind words! I’m glad you like the post! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

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  2. OMG I loved this post!! The word stress is like SO frequent in my school these days, omg!! XD XD
    I’m one who tries to see the bright side of things, there’s a lot of people who have it worst than us and we should be thankful for what we have, a little stress can’t bring us down!! The stress journal was a great idea btw!! ๐Ÿ˜€
    Also, music is really, really, REALLY a medicine sometimes. I can be studying for a really hard test for the next day and listening to just 1 song made my stress decrease by over 50%!!! (I ain’t actually calculate that, but you know what I mean)
    Photography and dancing are some of my fave things to do, they also make me relax!! ๐Ÿ™‚ But what I love doing the most is not doing anything, it’s so relaxing! Some people may see it as a waste of time but I just love it!!! XD
    Amazing post, I can’t explain how much I liked it!!! XD XD

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    1. Oh My God! Thankyou so so so much for your sweet & kind words! โค I’m SO happy you love the post! ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ŠI agree – the word stress in school gets thrown around a lot. Wow – we could be twins! We have a lot in common!๐Ÿ‘ŒI love to look at the bright side, listen to music before I have a big test, dance, do photography & don’t get me started on how I adore lazily sitting on my bed & doing absolutely nothing! ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ‘ญ I totally relate – it’s actually NOT a watse of time. I call it relaxing & reflecting! ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ‘ I’ve started doing the stress journal thing & it does wonders for your feelings! You should really try it! ๐Ÿ˜Š Once again, thankyou so so so so much for your more than great comment! ๐Ÿ˜You’ve made my day! โคโค

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      1. Omg I made your day?? Aww that’s so cool, I’m glad I did!!! โค And we do have a lot in common!!! XD XD
        And yeah, I also call it meditating, doing nothing is doing something, technically ๐Ÿ˜› Also, I think I should start the stress journal!!! XD

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  3. Thank you for telling me to check out your post, so glad I did. Stress is triggered by so many things, we all feel stressed get tensed. There is no way o prevent it but, yes, there are ways to calm it down. I agree with you, listening to soothing music or our favourite songs do wonders to our mood. Also it depends on how we allow our stress to take over us. Do we allow it to or not? That is the hard part to control, sometimes we just lose our cool, that we do need help controlling ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Aww! Thankyou for your lovely words! It’s my pleasure! โค I totally agree with everything you’ve said! I especially like what you said about how it depends on whether or not we allow stress to control us or not! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜ Once again, thankyou!๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

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  4. Hi,
    I really enjoyed your post and your blog. Me and my classmate are currently working on a high school project to spread awareness on teen anxiety and depression. We are currently interested in having a few teens write a post on our blog about their experience with stress, anxiety and depression. To inspire other teens battling with these issues too. We were wondering if you would be interested in writing a post for our blog about stress/anxiety. If you are please reply to this comment.

    Thank you for your time

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    1. Hi! Wow – that makes me so honoured & happy! Glad you like my post & blog! Your project sounds lovely – keep it up! I’m highly interested in writing a post for your blog, but can it wait to June? As I mentioned in the 1st paragraphi in this post – I have rly important exams coming up and I have no time to do anything other than studying. So, can it wait? Thankyou for this wonderful opportunity! ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜Š


      1. Hi,

        I was wondering if you were still interested. Our deadline has been changed and we are interested in still working on this site for a while due to it being a very important topic and initiative. If you are interested June would be fine or even later if it suits you better.

        You can contact us on our email for further information or any questions: teenanxietyanddepression@gmail.com

        Thank you,
        A&Z ๐Ÿ™‚


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